For expecting moms

It’s impossible to fully prepare for life after baby. But there’s a lot more you can do than get the nursery ready and pack your ‘go bag’ for the hospital.

Lessons.

Here are some things I’m glad I did (or wish I did) to prepare for postpartum: 

Make a postpartum plan.

Setting up a rough framework outlining preferences, expectations, and roles to navigate the transition to motherhood.

Learn about PMADs.

1 in 5 new moms (and 1 in 10 dads) suffer from a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder. Learn more about the symptoms here so they are easier to recognize and treat if they emerge postpartum.

Make a maternity coverage plan.

Outlining key responsibilities and identify what can be stopped/consolidated. Delegate other tasks to team members and include the plan/timing for transitioning back to work.

Learn about matrascence.

Becoming a mother is a process. Understanding that this a major life transition of physical and emotional changes can help manage expectations and embrace this new identity.

Build your support village.

It really does take a village to raise a child. Identify your resources early and line up support, especially for the first couple of months.

Get clear about your ‘me time’.

When things start to get overwhelming it’s even more important to carve out time for yourself. Be intentional about what you need to recharge, then ask for it. You’ll come back a better mom and partner.

Start discussing roles with your partner.

Household chores will ramp up significantly once baby arrives. Assess your current division of labor to achieve the right balance; then constantly recalibrate once baby arrives.

Read the instructions manuals.

Baby gear can be complicated (car seat, breast pump, swaddles). Read the manuals in advance and watch demos to build your confidence and minimize the stress.

Get rest.

The early months are truly a marathon. It’s easy to obsess over the small details when you’re getting ready for baby. Focus on what matters most, including your health and sleep.

Resources.

Postpartum planning.

PMADs.

  • Perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (or PMADS) are a range of disorders that can affect mothers and fathers during pregnancy and postpartum. 1 in 5 moms (and 1 in 10 dads) suffer from PMADs.

  • If you feel you may be suffering from a PMAD, know that it is not your fault and you are not to blame.

    If you are in danger of harming yourself or your child, seek help immediately. Call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988 or at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

    If this is not an emergency, call or text Postpartum Support International’s hotline at 1-800-944-4773.

    You can also find trained, qualified perinatal mental health providers (therapists, psychiatrists, and more) in your area using Postpartum Support International’s provider directory.

  • TOOL (free): Postpartum Support International, Perinatal mental health discussion tool to help track your symptoms and discuss them with your health provider.

    FACT SHEET (free): Postpartum Support International, Information for Parents

  • BOOK: Karen Kleinman, Good moms have scary thoughts

    TV SERIES: Fleishman is in trouble

Matrascence.

Relationships.